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Can’t imagine what you and your family are going through. As others have already said, I hope you find a small bit of comfort from knowing people on here and the Wednesday family are thinking of you.

 

Sincere condolences and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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3 hours ago, ChapSmurf said:

Craig, I am so very sorry to hear this tragic news, for you and all of your family and your dad's friends.

 

I would like to offer some words, if that is okay. You have reached out for help from your football family and if you continue to reach out for support during your time of grief, to whoever you feel comfortable sharing your feelings or emotions with, then I promise you, you will get through this. You will be changed forever, but you will get through this. I hope your family is as wise as you in seeking support when needed. I am sure they will find their own way.

 

Another thing; it doesn't matter what you do, what you say, or how you feel. It's okay. It really is.

 

And finally, I was told when I lost my wife just over 3 years ago to cancer, that grief is a path that you walk. It starts off very steep, with jagged rocks and sharp thorny bushes that cut you and slow you down. But you keep walking and soon the path becomes easier, less steep with less thorns cutting away at you. And then one day, you will be in wonderful grassy field, filled with sunshine and laughter and happiness. And then the next thing, you are back at the start of the steep, jagged path, being cut again. However this time, you know the journey and you can avoid some of the thorns. You arrive at the wonderful grassy field again, but quicker this time. And the whole thing starts again, and becomes easier and easier with each journey.

 

That phrase really helped me to understand that whilst it feels like absolute sh!t right now, you will survive and you will get through this. It might seem impossible, but it isn't. Stay strong x

This was a fantastic thing to read considering the shocking story behind it but it’s inspirational mate truly I hope your ok also seems like you’ve been through a lot :(. (Btw the sad face I put was because it hit me that very emotional to read tbf) 

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Don't what to say, only came on here before bed hoping for some good news.

 

It's all very very sad, my heart goes out to you and your family, Craig.....sincere condolences.

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Really terribly sorry to hear about this Craig, what an awful turn of events for you all. RIP Graham.

 

Wishing you as smooth a path through it as you can find from here. It won't be easy, but you'll get where you need to in time.

 

All the best to you and yours mate.

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9 hours ago, Lomas613 said:

This was a fantastic thing to read considering the shocking story behind it but it’s inspirational mate truly I hope your ok also seems like you’ve been through a lot :(. (Btw the sad face I put was because it hit me that very emotional to read tbf) 

 

I was hoping it would be inspirational, so thanks @Lomas613. I hope that Craig and his family can maybe find some inspiration, strength and hope through it too.

 

I mention my story only to show that I am speaking from a position of experience. I hope that adds some weight to my comments and gives greater hope to Craig and his family.

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Been checking this thread so to read this terrible news is heartbreaking , my thoughts are with you and your family Craig 

 

RIP Graham 

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So sorry to read this Craig, your dad looks like a top bloke.

 

My thoughts are with you and your family at this terrible time.

 

WAWAW

 

RIP Graham 

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Such sad news my condolences to you and your family 

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Craig, I'm very sorry for your loss, seek solice in your wonderful family love each other and you will pull through this 

 

God bless you all 

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13 hours ago, Craig7484 said:

Thank you for all your lovely messages.  All the family have been reading through them all.  

 

 

It's the very least we can all do.

 

I really do hope you look after each other and remember the best of your dad. I lost mine at the beginning of 2015 after he went into hospital on Christmas Eve just a few weeks before. He had Parkinson's and dementia and then passed away from pneumonia. Christmas for me, my mum and sister isn't a happy affair any more. I think you'll be burdened with the same but after the initial grieving you'll think of your dad at some really odd times - he'll just pop into your thoughts. You'll always remember him and what wouldn't we give to go back to some of those moments in more than just memory? The pain is only made bearable by love and the price of a memory is the pain of the sorrow it brings.

 

I was wondering whether to put this last bit but have decided to as I think it may help so please accept it as me wanting to share something with you and others reading this, but I'd like to after reading all the comments here and thinking about your loss...

 

It was nearly, exactly, 24 hours after his death that I dreamt of my dad. That strange time between being awake and sleeping; where dreams are at their most lucid. In my dream, my dad watched over me as I played for a time and then, afterwards, we walked together through a field of grass, talking with each other. Finally, he stood with me on the edges of the field, looking out towards a line of trees - the forest floor dark under their boughs. He told me that he was proud of me, that I had all that I needed to continue on, and that he would always be with me. I woke suddenly from my dream and remember looking at the time - 7.37 am. It's burned into my memory. I'll never forget it. And I know all this was just my mind making sense of what had happened, ordering and rationalising my thoughts and experiences - but to live in the thoughts and hearts of those we leave behind is not to die. It may sound mushy and trite but I think it's true, whatever religion (or not) or beliefs we may have; memories are so important and we need to hold onto those good ones. They are so very precious and important.

 

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Puts so many things into perspective. Words are hopeless to profess what we feel but terrible sorry, feels like a family member has departed.

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So very sad.  This is heartbreaking for you all, sending our love xx

 

 

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Terrible, terrible news mate. 

My thoughts are with your family. 

 

RIP Graham

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so very sorry for your loss Craig, keep your chin up pal                                                                                                                                                                                                        R.I.P Graham

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